Category: Dating and Relationships
I'm talking about men and women. Is there a difference between dating a Southerner and a northerner?
yes, very much so. For the most part anyway.
in my experience, northern girls are reserved and gentle, and when it comes to sex they aren't as wild. Southern girls are sweet and gentle and romantic, but can also be wild at the same time.
Unless they're from aristocracy at which point it's a tool to get at the gold
Northern girls know how to be victors, southern girls do not.
I have been told people who are from the south tend to bee a little nice to those who they are dating. :) Some would just call me a crazy texen! :).
ok crazy Texan. lol just playin
That's what I thought, but I ain't sure. I've gotta lot of thinks that I think that's wrong, just wanted to see I reckon. haha Judge Judy's northern, Blanche Deveraux from the Golden Girls is southern. lol
yep, their are differences, but its not only northern vs suthern, its also east coast vs west coast and so on, all regions have differences, and many people forget that about the US, they just see it as a hole rather than its regional parts, which can make a hole lot of difference in the long run.
Well said james.
Being a southern girl I was shocked when I went to oregon. everyone was so nice and seemed to live more out there and free. There definitely is a difference.
I've been all over the country for the most part, or interact with people from the few places i havent been, so i'm starting to get a picture together.
As a previous person mentioned, it's not only north and south, but, east coast, west coast, etc. Then you have Alaska and Hawaii, although I have yet to be involved with anyone from those two states. Still, I think there would be differences.
Mmm Oregon thanks for the compliments on my state. I've lived other places, and have returned with the question why did I stay away so long?
lol everyone likes where they're from, though, ...
yes, their are some differences in those two as well, though I didn't think about it when writing the first time. their's alot of similarities between north west coast and alaska as far as these things go, though their are differences of corse.
Hell if I could secure a job in texas, I and my wife would bee gone from NC in a heart beet. I so miss my home state, :) austen rocks.
"... And you don't look much like a steer to me, so that kinda narrows it down! ..."
Yeah. Northerners are better. Southerners are misserable and soft, and they steel the wealth of the north for themselves. Bloody southerners!
I'm not a big fan of the south, but, Austin is a cool city.
heard southerners got a sweet sexy way of talking. and I personally feel I can understand the accent of southerners better.
Raaj
I was with more than one southern man. I lived in Savannah Georgia for almost a year when I was 20. Their gentlemen are more ... gentle than in the north. This is just talking the east coast. I think cowboys here in the west put the southerners away, but that's my oppinion. lol
And yes, Raajy, southern accents blow my mind. They're subtly different than Western accents, meaning cowgirls don't drawl the same way southern belles do. But I still get mistaken for southern. Ugh, I never took too kindly to southern women, weak and stupidly flirtatious.
Jessie
I always thought southern women were more reserved and southern men were more gentlemen like and know how to treat a lady.
I'm from Texas, and I miss the south greatly. When i went up north to chicago even though it's considered the midwest it was north to me lol. At any rate when I went up that way people there started to be always in so much of a hurry and just not as kind to other people. There seemed to just be more crime, more judging more hustle and bustle and generally just people pushing you out of the way. The only east coast place I didn't really see that from so much was Philadelphia. As per the west coast they as well don't really seem like nice laid back people either. At least in the south people tend to treat you a whole lot better, care if you're a little bit lost in a big city or at least in a busier city, don't clamber over you when you're trying to ride a subway, and generally are just sweet people who love sweet tea barbecue and where macaroni is a vegetable.
Hell ya!!!! :), dam I miss my home state texas!!! I would go back there in a heart beat if I knew I could find a job quickly.
Keep in mind this is my experience based on life in two states and human beings can be transient, so who you encounter in any region may not be from or even permanently there at all, but as a rule I found it easier to know where I stood in the south than here in New England. There can be a meanness in the south if someone doesn't like you, sure, but it's up front and you know where you stand. Northerners tend to be more sneaky, subtle. As an example, I'm sure no one with any intelligence wants to hear gays and lesbians slurred as "faggots and dykes", yet I heard quite a bit of that in the south. They're generally live and let live types in those states, but they're up front about stuff like, say, asking two lesbians holding hands in the grocery store to refrain until they get home. On the other hand I knew a native born Bostonian gay woman, and when she participated in a company charity endeavor, dressing up teddy bears to distribute to needy children, the women in the group had a subtle way of letting her know she 'wasn't one of them'. They didn't let her know about the group photo of everyone's work, waiting until she left to do it. Her work got excluded from the picture, and when she saw the photo she told me, "Squid see if I do anything like that with them again." I find southerners able to engage in dialogue if they don't agree with or don't like what you said, while northerners "take offense" and maybe you don't even know they did until some weeks after the conversation.
so is the south not as politically correct as the north?
I also heard that in the south, there is a lot of your not one of us attitude if your from anywhere in the north it doesn't even have to be north like new york or boston. It could be like Missouri or Ohio.
Since I've lived in New york fora bit, I didn't get that vive at all and I was a outsider since I'm Canadian. It makes sense to me why the pace of life in the north is faster since the north has been an area of industry and corporation.
I think north and south both have their strengths and weaknesses. I've noticed that in general, northerners seem to be more health conscious as well as language conscious. In other words, they're big about making sure to say "I saw", and "She and I". However, I've also noticed that in general, southerners tend to be more polite to everyone they meet. Of course, every general rule has its exceptions, and I've seen my share of those. So I definitely don't think it's fair to say "All northerners are this", and "all southerners are that".
Like I said, I lived in Savannah Georgia for almost a year in my younger days. I've noticed the subtle differences between people in the south and the north, and even in the east and west. Of course, I've never lived in the midwest or the northeast, but I've been around people from all parts of the country. I think northerners tend to be more busy since it's a faster paced life in general in the north, while in the south there's more of a laid back kind of feel. That's why people down there tend to be more friendly.
Of course, southerners tend to only be friendly and charming to people who they feel deserve it. In other words, most southerners are conservative patriarchies who have strong opinions about family structure, people's place in life based on demigraphics, etc. My aunt and a few more family members live in Georgia, where I'm moving in a little bit, and they tell me straight up that a lot of people down there don't believe in a lot of divercity. Like gay people. a lot of gay people are not very welcome some of the time, but apparently it's gotten way better. Just like how black people being hated on in the south has died down a bit over the years, so has gay hate crimes, but they're still higher in number down there.
Jessie
funny thing is in some of those southern states black people have actually become a bit more prevalent. so I would think the northerners hated them more in some instances, or they just didn't feel welcome there or something. Then you have states like Texas where the mexican population is absolutely astounding so even though it's a southern state and a lot of people think there are a bunch of white hillbillies or something like that you will see a huge amount of hispanic people and their culture.
Texas is a mix of white hicks, black people and mexicans. That's how it is. Now states like Alabamy and Georgie, or good ol Mississippi are a mix of black and white. Black hate crimes are almost nonexistant in some parts of the south, and in some parts they're still as racist as they were during the civil war.
the number of blacks in the south doesn't have a lot to do with hate crimes thgugh. They moved north in the late 1800's and early 1900's because the north had all the jobs. Now, the reverse is happening, because the south has a lot less crappy cities, and the economy is actually better in the southern states. A lot of the northern states are failing, look at michigan for example. Now all the cars in america are made primarily in the south, not the north. People go where the jobs are.
As for my preference. I've found that northern girls are more up front with sexuality, but not much else. That is to say, they're great at sex, and willing, but anything more than that gets kinda iffy. Southern girls, it make take a bit for you to get under her skirt, but thur gonna have fun while your getting there. Give me a good ozark girl any day, especially with a sweet little accent.
People also say that there is a difference between east and the west saying how the west is more laid back. I again didn't notice any differences what so ever. In fact, with cities like LA, or Seattle, the pace of life is just as, if not faster than the east. I'd love to go to the south one day since shivery is still alive.
not all or even most of the white people in texas are hillbillies, though I will admit culturally texas hicks are different than the rest in alot of small ways that kind of add up, though apart from that, you have texas pritty down
Poster #27 back in the '90's, while I lived in Florida, there was a news article about more blacks migrating from northern states to Florida and other southern states because, in part, they preferred knowing up front where they stood with people in the south, even if it meant terms like "nigger" or being spat at or worse, than the more subtle approach, the ol' "Great to meet you Mr. Washington", than a run to the bathroom for a handwash.
Another way my part of the northeast has of subtly keeping non-whites or non-native minorities in a low position is by so called "diversity" or "multiculturalism", not expecting them to learn English or otherwise adapt. All of these services in other languages from progress notes to parents of children in school in languages other than English to information booths in Spanish & Vietnamese at community colleges is their subtle way of saying "You can't", learn English, get educated, be a part of the society you've chosen. That's insulting. They cover it with smokescreens like "Americans learning other languages", but it's really their way of saying "You can't", and it really is insulting to those who do. It keeps people from those groups perpetually in need of various forms of assistance, from interpreters to documents in their own languages, to various forms of public assistance since they're not, without English, going to qualify for the better paying jobs, and perpetually dependent on government and isolated from neighbors who aren't from their society.
When I lived in Florida and travelled in Georgia, those municipalities might provide assistance in Spanish, but that was it...not Creole Hatian, Portuguese, Somali, Moroccan Arabic, Russian, etc. Even Spanish only was foolhardy as, depending what part of Florida you're in, even some public sector employees might not speak it. Southern states are pretty much sink or swim societies, we'll treat you like equals but no special treatment. MA, since I live in this part of the northeast, has a pretty patronizing attitude towards its nonnative populations.
wow, i was just discussing this with someone the other day. Honestly, I can kind of say that the general northern populus is a bit, well, preppy. We have a tendency to be very particular, and yeah, as someone said, politically correct. At the same time though, when there's conflict, you can trust we'll get it solved in a heartbeat, even if we're not as nice as the Texans. Kind of a random comment, but the southerners have AMAZING accents, better than ours, and they have a better sense of manners. :))
Dannie, you're awesome, but I gotta admit, stereotypically, southerners are much more polite than northerners. However, in my experience, I've met a lot of people in different parts of the US as I've never been out of the country but once, from well-manored to people with absolutely no sense of respect what so ever. but honestly, more often than not, I find that people from the north and west are much nicer than where I live, but that could just be me.
And as far as the accent goes, I must really be use to the typical Southern accent most of us Texans have, because I never notice it coming from anyone around where I live, unless they have a much thicker accent than usual. But I'm sure that would be the first thing anyone from the north, or anywhere else besides the south for that matter would notice. lol
And it's been a long time sense I've been around anyone from the eastern part of the US, so I can't remember whether or not they usually have any kind of noticeable accent. lol Yeah I'm tired, so I apologize if none of this mess makes sense to any of you. :p
Its my pleasure to extend a big texan hug rather now it comes from NC but "you can take a texen out of Texas but you can't take the texen out of the person."
east coast most definitely have a particular accent especially New york or Ma
There are several dialects found on the east coast. Same thing with west, central, and south. Its interesting just how much verioty there is.
I agree, and like I said, southerners tend to be more sweet overall, but the sweetness is conditional most of the time. As long as you're a good conservative christian, you're good with the southerners. lol, I guess what I'm saying is that as long as you're "in the norm" of the south, the southerners can be the nicest people in the world, sweet and charming, way more so than the northerners. Danni, I agree lol, northerners are a little preppy, but also they're no-nonsense business people who are always busy and ignoring everyone else, etc, very serious people ... you know.
Jessie, not all southerners have anything against people who are neither conservative, nor christian, you know. :p Think about this; I'm from the south, and I'm...nevermind. lol
lol Ashley, I know, if they had problems with every non-conservative they saw than my aunt wouldn't be letting me come stay with them. lol, just saying that that's kind of the deal with a lot of southerners, or like Judge judy is the typical brooklyn northerner. lol